Why Being Better?

In the process of our work together we will establish a professional therapeutic relationship in which understanding, insight, support, and growth can occur.  You can find comfort in a setting that honors your choice(s) for growth, respects your individuality, the person you are today, and how you strive to be better.

Our work together will explore the choices being made, the choices not being made, and the reasons for each.  We will locate and connect with the motivation to progress and be better.  We will develop the skills that allow you to accomplish what you seek to gain.  We will reflect and understand in times when there is growth, as well as endeavor through times when it seems there isn’t much growth and we will be better then too for the effort.

 

Entering therapy is a process that one needs to commit to fully in order to achieve meaningful benefit.  It is also true that sometimes people are entering therapy at the request, demand, or insistence of others, and I can work with people coming to the process from that place also.  Regardless, each of us needs to know that we will be bringing our full selves to the sessions and give these sessions our all.  Please refrain from multi-tasking while in session, leave your devices aside (some reasonable exceptions understood), be present, and allow for maximum benefit in each meeting.  

 

Staying in therapy can also be tricky and misunderstood, so let’s cover some of that here too. In order to remain active in therapy we need to be meeting at least once monthly, if not in most cases more frequently for progress to be achieved.  Frequency of meetings is something we will discuss throughout our work together, and besides the “at least once a month” pace can be mutually agreed upon.  Figuring out when to suspend or terminate therapy is another important subject we will address next.

 

Exiting therapy needs to be a conscious process for both parties.  Simply put, dropping out without notice is neither acceptable nor welcome here.  Providing therapeutic services for individuals is a chosen profession.  And it is one that requires making space for specific individuals in my life, and thus maintaining space for my clients and their lives in my own is one that I take seriously.  When a person chooses they wish to end or suspend working together, that information needs to be communicated in a direct and clear way.  It is my observation that in our world, too often, people elect to not communicate when they could and should, and from there much of the ill in our society takes root.